Ärge unustage ema vaimset ja füüsilist tervist.

Tihti on välja kujunenud, et ema ainult hoolitseb beebi eest, sest ei osata isa kaasta või kardetakse ühiskonna reaktsiooni jättes beebi kellegi teise hoolde.
Tegelikult ma soovitan päevas vähemalt tund ema enda aega. Mida see tähendab? See tähendab, et beebi on kellegagi väljas jalutuskäigul või hoolitseb tema eest keegi kodus. Olgu selleks siis lapse isa või tore naabritädi.

Ajad on muutunud ja enne lapse sündi on naine tööl käinud, mitte ainult koduperenaine olnud.

Kui 30 aastat tagasi tulid vanavanemad appi hoolitsema majapidamise ja äsja sünnitanud ema eest või elas mitu põlvkonda ühe katuse all, siis tänapäeva vanavanemad töötavad ja paljud pered on üle ilma laiali. Mõningatel juhtudel hoopis teises riigis end sisse seadnud.

Piiramatu ligipääs internetile on tegelikult suurt segadust tekitav info ülekülluse osas ja gruppid kus värsked lapsevanemad teatavad, et nende kuu vanune maimuke ütleb emme või tahab juba käima hakkata. See omakorda tekitab palju küsimusi teistes emades, kelle lapsed samu asju ei tee ja nii mõnigi kord lõppeb see külastusega arsti juurde, et välja selgitada, kas laps ikka areneb eakohaselt.

Kohtudes paljude emadega ja rääkides, kuidas neil on organiseeritud “oma aeg”, siis tihti paar esimest kuud kuni aasta peale beebi sündi seda aega ei ole. Kuid see millise õhinaga räägitakse esimesest poeskäigust või jalutuskäigust ilma beebita on samavõrdne lotovõiduga! 😊

Seega, palun võimaldada emale oma aega. See mida ta selle ajaga teeb on tema enda otsustada, kuid ma võin lubada, et pärast väikest pausi on ta energilisem ema ja parem kaasa oma mehele, sest ta on õnnelik naine!

Ilusat kolmapäeva soovides,
Kadi

Do not forget the mental and physical health of a mother. I cannot stress this enough.

For some reason it’s normal for a new mom to be left with all the responsibility, either because of the uncertainty on how to get the father involved or because of their fear that they are not good enough in the eyes of others.

Actually I would recommend for the new mom to take at least one hour just for herself. So what does this mean? This means that someone else is either outside on a stroll with the baby or looks after the baby at home. Whether it is the baby’s father or a lovely auntie, this time is very important for the mom.

Times have changed and before the baby was born, this beautiful woman had done so many things in life.

When 30 years ago grandparents came down to look after the household and the new mother, or if many generations lived under the same roof and helped out with the daily tasks, then nowadays grandparents are mostly still in workforce or live somewhere far away. In some cases they may even be living in a completely different country.

Even the unlimited access to Internet can be more confusing than helpful as there is too much information out there. Some fresh parents can brag about their baby trying to walk or trying to say mommy even after barely reaching 1 months of age. This creates a lot of questions and stress in other moms whose children do not do the same thing. Quite often this ends with a visit to the doctor’s office where they try to find out if their child is developing as he or she should.

After meeting many moms over the years, we have discussed how they have organised their ‘time for themselves’. And I hear it quite often that for a couple of months until a full year after the birth they do not have this time. Then imagine their enthusiasm when they are telling a story of their first grocery shopping or a walk on their own, alone, and how that seemed to equal to a lottery win!

So, please do allow this new mom some time for herself. What she does with it is completely up to her, but I can promise that after a small break she is more energetic and full of life because she is a happy woman!

Wishing you a beautiful afternoon,

Kadi

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