Mähkme-vaba beebi

Mõni nädal tagasi lubasin jagada infot raamatu kohta diaper free baby, ehk mähkme vaba beebi.

Alustuseks pean tegema suure kummarduse ja ütlema aitähh raamatu autorile Christine Gross-Loh. Tegemist on äärmiselt põneva ja õpetliku raamatuga. Raamatu autor on kohe alguses realist ja läheneb soovitusi jagades loogilisust silmas pidades.
Sa võidki harjutada beebit esimesest päevast peale potiga või näiteks alati enne vannitamist hoiad beebit käte vahel ja võib juhtuda, et teeb pissi kraanikaussi, potti või mõnda muusse anumasse mis käepärast ja sobilik.

Paari nädala vanustele beebidel tead sa õige pea millal on pissi või kaka aeg ning selleks ajaks võid sättida õhuvanni ja lasta lapsel olla ilma mähkmeta. Ole leidlik ja paindlik kui soovid last harjutada ilma mähkmeta olema. Võib-olla sa otsustad, et teed seda korra nädalas või hoopis öösel või näiteks hea aeg pissi või kaka potti püüdmiseks on peale autosõitu kui võtad lapse turvatoolist välja.

Ära tee ühtegi potiga harjutamise tegevust kui sa oled väsinud, see on sinu jaoks vastvõetamatu või mõnel muul põhjusel.

Paljudes riikides on probleemiks, et lapsed käivad mähkmega ka 3-4 aastaselt. Need on riigid, kus tegelikult tuleb tegeleda vanematega, sest nad ei oska või ei taha aru saada, kui laps õpib potil käima, siis see harjumine võtab aega. Juhul kui laps on 3-4 aastane ja ühel päeval pannakse ta potile, siis tekib lapsel stress ja ma tean mitmeid lapsi, kes hoidsid oma väljaheidet kuni neile magama minekuks pandi mähe, kus nad tegid siis kogu oma päeva pissi ja kaka. Samuti kui laps kakas potti tekkis tal stress, sest ta polnud enne kakat näinud ja ta lihtsalt röökis järgnevas pool tundi.

Raamat õpetab vanemaid, kuidas last harjutada potiga, kuidas vanemad õpivad lapse kehakeelt tundma ja ära tabama hetkel kui on vaja potile minna.
Kui sa oled otsustanud, et ühtegi mähet sa ei osta, sellest pole midagi, siis tuleb lihtsalt palju marlimähkmeid või muid alternatiive varuda ja sa pead ise vaimselt selleks valmis olema.

Ma jagan nüüd oma kogemust poti treeningu osas. Kui võtta arvesse ülalt toodud raamatu õpetusi, siis olen beebisid sünnist saati potiga harjutanud, ehk enne vannitamist õhtuti hoidnud poti kohal. Samuti on meil alati pott olnud nähtaval kohal. Ühel hetkel kui laps istub, siis olen võtnud samal ajal WC-sse kui ise käin ja siis istub ta oma väikese poti peal ja võib juhtuda, et kui pesen käsi või lasen vett, siis teeb beebi pissi potti. Kui laps juba kõnnib, jookseb ja söôb iseseisvalt, siis ma olen alustanud potti treeninguga, näiteks ärkvel oleku aeg ilma mähkmeta ja kodust välja minnes paariks tunniks ongi mul kaasas 5-6 paari vahetustiideid. Kui ma päevagruppis istusin põrandal jalad rätsepa istes ja laps kes õpib potil käima tuli ja istus mulle sülle, siis tuli ruttu potile minna. Esimest korda ma seda ära ei tabanud ja tuli oma ülejäänud aeg kuni koju minekuni märgade pükstega olla, mulle tegi see hoopis nalja ja ka pisike inimene sai aru, et vist natuke läks pahasti. Kui olin lapsele kuivad riided pannud, siis ta panin käed ümber kaela ja palus vabandust…. minu vastus oligi, et sellest pole midagi hullu 🙂

Kui oled otsustanud teha potitreeningut, siis ei tohi lapsega riielda, alandada või alavääristada, kui juhtub õnnetus ja riided on märjad. (Mõtle alati, kas sulle meeldiks kui keegi sinuga halvasti käituks sellisel juhul) Laps on sinu miniversioon ja talle meeldivad/ei meeldi samad asjad mis sulle. Tuleb olla toetav ja rääkida, et pole hullu, riideid saab pesta, ära näita lapsele välja oma pettumust, ta alles õpib ennast ja oma keha tundma.

Potitreeningu näol on lapse ja vanema koostööga, kus laps õpib oma keha tundma ja lapsevanem õpib oma kannatlikkust kasvatama.

Kuna suvi on parim aeg teha potitreeninguga algust, siis soovin mõnusat koos kasvamist ja avastamis rõõmu!

Diaper-free baby

A couple of weeks ago I promised to share some useful information from a book called The Diaper-Free Baby by the wonderful Christine Gross-Loh. First things first, I would like to extend my sincerest gratitude towards the book’s author as this book is incredibly interesting and very informative. The author starts off realistically and is very logical and down-to-earth when giving out suggestions and tips for parents.

She agrees that you can start potty-training the baby from day one, for example by holding the baby over a sink or a different basin depending on what you have at hand. And it may happen that the baby does his or her thing which is the start of this training.
When the baby is a couple of weeks old, you more or less know when it is time for the baby to pee or poop and you can arrange to have the baby without a diaper as fresh air can also help the baby to relieve themselves. Please be patient and flexible if you do wish the baby to be diaper-free. Maybe you decide to do it once a week or during nights, or maybe you find it’s the easiest to catch the baby’s pee and poop in a potty after a car drive. It completely depends on the baby but you will learn to tell the cues.
Please do note – do not potty-train if you are tired or if it is unacceptable for you for any kind of reasons.

Although, in many countries it is concerning that children are put in diapers even when they are 3 or 4 years old. These are countries where the parents do not do enough research or do not have access to the right information. They also may not wish to understand or do not know that potty-training does take time as the baby has to get used to it. If the child is already 3 or 4, it is very stressful for the child to be put on a potty one day as they do not have any previous exposure to this. I also know a couple of children who have kept in their need to poop until they were put in a diaper for the night. And this is when they let go of everything they had kept in during the day – imagine that! Additionally, even seeing poop can create stress if the child has never seen it before. Let me mention that this child will be extremely unhappy for the next half an hour and I can tell that from my own experience.

In conclusion, this book teaches parents how to potty-train, how to understand the baby’s body language and learn to see the cues of the baby’s needs.
If you have decided that you are not going to buy the widely-used diapers sold at every supermarket, that is totally alright as you can always ensure you have enough of other alternatives you wish to use (like cloth diapers). You will just have to be mentally prepared for this.

I would also like to share my experience in regards to potty-training. Taking into consideration the tips from the book that are mentioned above, then I have also been potty-training babies from the day one by holding them above a sink before bathing. Additionally we have always kept the potty where the child can see it. If they are a little older, it is also a good tip to take the child with you to the bathroom when you go, and to take the potty in there as well so they can sit on it while you do your business. Sometimes it can happen that the child does their own thing as well in the meantime. If the child walks, runs and eats independently, I have started with the actual potty-training where the child is out of diapers for the whole time they are awake. I do ensure that I have at least 5 or 6 pairs of exchange clothes for the couple of hours we spend outside the home.
Let me tell you a little story. We were in daycare one day and I was sitting on the floor cross-legged, the child I had been recently potty-training came to sit on my lap and suddenly there was such a rush to get them to the bathroom immediately. First time I didn’t catch this cue and that meant the child had to spend the whole time in wet pants until it was time to go home. For me it was rather funny and the little one understood as well that something did not go well. When I was finally able to change her out of her wet pants, she put her hands around my neck and apologised…to which I of course responded with assuring that everything is alright and that it was not a problem.

From here I would like to point out that potty-training is a very sensitive process. You should not be angry with the child, make any remarks or make them feel lower in case of an accident and if the clothes get wet. Consider if you would like to receive such remarks if this was to happen to you. This child is your mini version and she likes and dislikes the same things as you do. You have to be supportive and say that everything is alright, that clothes can always be washed. Do not show your disappointment as the child is going through a process of getting to know themselves and this takes time.

To finish off, potty-training only happens in cooperation where the child and the parents understand each other – the child learns about their own body and the parents will learn to be more patient.

Wishing you a wonderful learning time and lots of new discoveries!
Kadi

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