Dental problems in children!

Parents are responsible for the development of their child’s oral health habits.

I naively thought that the oral health issues along children due to sugary drinks/foods is only prevalent in the UK and in the US, but that is not the case!

Visiting Estonia I met a wonderful and a kind family, where I couldn’t help but notice the front teeth of their 5-year-old, as the situation was very bad. When we met up, the child was given a big bag of candies to nibble on, which she finished soon enough. At some point I asked if they’ve been to the dentist and what does the oral treatment look like in Estonia. It turned out that they’ve been to the dentist just recently, but the child didn’t even open her mouth – the dentist saw no problems with that, but the dental examination couldn’t be done and it was left like that.

I asked parents for permission to have a look and luckily the child was ok with it as well. What I found were big cavities one couldn’t miss – I didn’t believe my eyes, as the child was only 5!

Oral health problems do not appear overnight and after looking into it I’ve learned that these issues are not hereditary (although I hear lots of excuses such as ‘everyone in our family has bad teeth’). It actually shows bad eating habits and the lack of attention and importance placed on oral hygiene. Most even don’t visit the dentist unless something hurts.

To protect your child’s teeth, an easy solution would be to cut off sweetened drinks, sugary yogurts or anything of the sorts before bedtime.

How often should one go in for a check-up?

Depending on what the dentist recommends directly, it should be once a year. But to be on the safe side, twice a year, so anything a little out of order can be discovered early and can be supervised. And if the child is afraid of the dentist – book an appointment every 3-4 months. This way, the child gets used to the dentist and will not consider them as an ‘ugly monster’ who only pulls out teeth or hurts them.

Another tip for parents whose children are afraid of the dentist – do not arrive early at the dentist office, but be just on time. This way you lessen the stress that comes by waiting and the child also won’t see other children who may come out crying.

Recommendations:

*For the oral health of your child, don’t give them sugary drinks/yogurts or otherwise sugar-filled things before bedtime.

*First dentist appointment can be scheduled when the child has their first tooth.

*Make regular dentist appointments every 3-4 months so the child can get used to the dentist chair and with the environment.

*Have a look at the food table and remember, child’s drink is water!

*Don’t let the child brush their teeth alone, rather help them to ensure all the hard-to-reach places will get cleaned. To check how well teeth have been brushed, small tablets are sold in most pharmacies which upon breaking between their teeth turn colour – this will show which areas still need more cleaning.

*Place a sand-timer next to the sink so the child knows how long teeth must be brushed for. Make sure to get them into a habit of 2x a day. To ensure they remember to, post a piece of paper to the wall, so after every brushing session they can put a sticker on the paper for a job well done.

*Have the child with you when choosing a toothbrush, but make sure the brush is age-appropriate. And if the child does not like the usual peppermint taste, then find a different taste – our main goal is to teach good habits. But make sure they don’t like the toothpaste taste too much, as otherwise you may find the tube of paste is only enough for a couple days (seen it before)!

*Don’t scare the child and keep the horror stories of the dentist to yourself! Find a book filled with teeth-inspired delightful stories and create an interest to visit the dentist. Tell them of the fun things in the dentist office and spike their imagination on all the things that can be done and imagined.

I’ll add a Youtube video here on how diet affects teeth and what happens if not enough attention is placed on oral health – a little bit of thinking material for parents. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c2EJ6_0iq7k&fbclid=IwAR2Mi-8ieVrevMEBShDJPA8HMLlCh1ryRmwPHpO3_oXUoBa1o3UOhiRLF50

Also, an article which was recently published in Estonia on oral health issues in children. https://tervis.ohtuleht.ee/976962/hambad-lagunevad-kui-palju-maksab-tegelikult-sinu-lapse-hambaravi?fbclid=IwAR26KZYChW1I9OddTdE1L9-MTmeNMi-mFcCWIvPO5QjPswBIHAD6-Fs777A

NB! Photo is from my personal collection.

Happy brushing!
Kadi

Laste halvas seisukorras hambad!

Laste hambahügieeni harjumuste välja kujunemise eest ei vastuta mitte laps vaid lapsevanem.

Arvasin lihtsameelselt, et suuhügieeni probleemid ja suure suhkrusisaldusega toitude/jookide manustamine lastele on vaid Brittide ja Ameeriklaste teema, kuid ei ole!

Eestit külastades kohtusin ühe imetoreda perega, kus hakkas kohe silma viie aastase esihambad, nende seisukord oli väga halb. Kohtumise ajal anti lapsele suur kott komme mis ta ka kõik ära sõi. Ühel hetkel ma küsisin, et kas nad on hambaarstil käinud ja kuidas Eestis üldse selliste hammaste ravi välja näeb? Selgus, et alles oli hambaarsti külastatud, kuid laps ei teinud suud lahti ning arst sellest ka probleemi ei teinud, ehk siis ülevaate saamine suus toimuvast jäi ära. Palusin vanemate luba lapsele suhu vaadata ning minu õnneks oli laps koostöövalmis, vastu vaatasid suured hambaaugud ja mina ei suutnud uskuda mida ma näen! Laps oli kõigest viie aastane!!!!

Hambaprobleemid ei tule üleöö ning seal on alati tagamaid mida uurides saan aru, et tegemist ei ole mitte pärilikkusega (selle taha poetakse palju, et meil kõigil peres on kehvad hambad), tegelikult näitab, et halvad toitumisharjumused ja suuhügieenile ei pöörata tähelepanu, ka hambaarsti ei külastata regulaarselt vaid tõesti kui juba hammas valutab.

Üks asi mida sa saad teha oma lapse hammaste heaks, ära anna magustatud jooke, magusaid jogurteid või mida kõike veel enne magamaminekut, et laps pannakse voodisse pudeliga mis on siis täidetud ülalnimetatutega.

Kui tihti käia kontrollis?
Olenevalt sellest mida hambaarst soovitab, kuid korra aastas, kui arst on öelnud, aga kindluse mõttes kaks korda aastas, sest nii saadakse kohe jaole kui millelgi tuleb silma peal hoida. Soovitan laste puhul, et tekiks harjumus ning ei oleks hirmu – käige iga kolme-nelja kuu tagant hambaarsti juures. Esiteks harjutakse arstiga ja nähakse, et hambaarst ei ole “kole koll”, kes ainult puurib ja tõmbab hambaid suust välja.
Üks nipp mis on veel, et lapsel kellel on hirm hambarsti ees – ära saabu hambaarsti kabineti ukse taha väga varakult vaid mine näiteks täpselt kui on sinu aeg käes, sest nii maandad stressi ja kui keegi on arsti juures kellel just puuritakse/tehakse süsti ning tuleb nuttes välja, siis võid enam kui kindel olla, et laps ei tee suud lahtigi kabinetis.

Soovitused:
*Üks asi mida sa saad teha oma lapse hammaste heaks, ära anna magustatud jooke, magusaid jogurteid või mida kõike veel enne magamaminekut, et laps pannakse voodisse pudeliga mis on siis täidetud ülalnimetatutega.

*Esimese hambaarsti külastuse võid teha juba siis kui esimene hammas on tulnud.

*Käi regulaarselt kontrollis, harjuta last 3-4 kuu tagant hambaarsti toolis ja keskkonnaga.

*Vaata üle toidulaud, pea meeles, et lapse jook on vesi!

*Ära lase lapsel üksi hambaid pesta vaid aita, et kõik raskesti ligipääsetavad kohad saaksid kenasti pestud. Selleks, et kindlaks teha kui hästi hambaid pesete on müügil väikesed tabletid mida suus puruks hammustades muudab värvi ning rohkem pesu vajavad kohad tulevad välja.

*Pane kraanikausi kõrvale pisike liivakell, et laps teaks kui kaua tuleb hambaid pesta. Pese hambaid 2x päevas, et kindlaks teha, kas ikka on meeles püsinud pane pisike paber seina peale, kuhu saab peale igat hambapesu kleepsu kleepida.

*Valige koos lapsega hambaari ja veendu, et hambapasta oleks vastavalt lapse eale. Oluline on ka see, et kui lapsele ei meeldi piparmündi maitseline hambapasta, siis leia mõni muu maitse, sest viimane asi mida sa tahad, et hambapesu oleks vastumeelne. Jälgi, et lapsele hambapasta sedavõrd palju ei meeldi, et ta juba paari pesukorraga terve tuubi ära tarbib (mul on selline tore kogemus olemas 😄).

*Ära räägi kodus hambaarstist õuduslugusid ja ära hirmuta last! Lugege koos toredaid raamatuid hammaste teemal ja tekita hoopis suur huvi hambaarsti külastada. Räägi kui palju mõevaid asju on hambaarsti kabinetis ja kuidas tooliga saab sõita (ole loov).

Lisan siia ühe youtube video kus räägitakse laste toitumisest ja hammastest ja sellest milleni viib hammaste eest mitte hoolt kandmine – mõtlemisainet kõigile lapsevanematele. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c2EJ6_0iq7k

Lisaks artikkel mis ilmus eestis hiljuti laste hammaste teemal:
https://tervis.ohtuleht.ee/…/hambad-lagunevad-kui-palju-mak…

NB! Pilt pärineb minu isiklikust fotokogust.

Kadi

Trip to Italy

Most readers already know that I frequently travel with the families I work for.

So yesterday morning we met up at the airport as we were about to head off to Italy. I’ve attached some photos from the trip (which I took myself) – and let me tell you, lake Como is beautiful! But that aside, let me first talk about the flight itself because that’s what we’re all here for.

After dropping off our suitcases, we headed over to the business lounge. I already know that the bigger child (almost three) needs breakfast before a flight – otherwise things can get quite messy and loud. So an orange juice and a couple raisin swirls later, it was time to proceed to the gate.

It was all smooth sailing to our flight seats and I was then handed the little girl (eight months), who’d been overtaken by tiredness. As our seats were in the business class, we had more than enough space. The seat next to us was empty but towards the aisle sat a middle-aged man who spared us a number of grumpy glances when the baby cried. But funnily enough, just when the little one was about to fall asleep, the man started snapping his fingers which had the baby staring at him with wide eyes. But finally the girl fell asleep and I handed her to her mother.

The seat behind the mother was empty and so we went there with the older girl. I’ve never had any problems finding activities for children. A big colouring book is always a great thing – something you can do together. Again the seat next to us was empty, only an older woman occupied the window seat beside us. We started our colouring session in hushed voices (she knows that you have to respect other’s peace). As there was a table between the two seats connecting us to the woman, we made sure not to take any more table space than half of it. I didn’t see any problems with that, but I think the woman did, as at some point she slammed her newspaper all over the table and over our colouring book!

I gently lifted her newspaper off to the available table space to which the lady asked me about our official seats. I replied back, that the little one’s is next to her mother who currently has a baby with her. She did not seem pleased at all and asked about my own seat, to which the mother turned around and replied instead. The lady jumped up, grabbed all her things and went over to my seat with lots of grimaces and threw her things on the seat.

The little girl asked me what happened and why the lady didn’t wish to sit next to us. Well, I explained that sometimes when your’e tired and angry, you may feel that others are the cause of your unhappiness, but that hopefully she will get some rest.

When it was time for breakfast, I for some reason had an ominous feeling in my stomach when I handed the littlest one over to her mother. When the stewardess reached us, she leaned over and asked in the loudest voice possible about our breakfast choice. And guess what, next moment the baby was crying!

I’ll be honest and say that really irked me, to the point where I wanted to ask if this is some kind of a joke? You see a baby sleeping and you still proceed with a voice that echoes all over the plane… I don’t think we’re the first or last ones travelling with children, and it would be nice if the flight crew had some emphatic skills.

So now I had 2 children, both awake. I helped the older one with her breakfast and still managed to finish my coffee with the other hand.

When I stood up with the little one in my arms, I felt how she held herself in a weird way (by then I knew very well what that meant). Hurriedly I asked the mother for a muslin cloth. Sadly her reaction wasn’t that quick, but still we managed to get some of the milk that came up into the cloth. The aisle floor did get some gentle spots here and there but everyone and everything else was untouched.

Stewardesses couldn’t hide their disdain much but that was the least of my problems. I cleaned up the little one and put her into her sleeping clothes. Then it was another set of smooth sailing all the way to the hotel, and the children held up well for the rest of the trip.

How was the first night away from home?

The older girl slept well but the baby woke up every hour or so. I also took care of another puddle of milk that didn’t sit well with her, and in the early morning she decided to be a chatter-box instead. It took about an hour or so to get her to fall asleep. By 7am both were awake and a new day could start.

Why am I sharing this? Lots of people think that it’s easy travelling with children, but I’d say it all depends on how mentally prepared you are. What happened during this flight is definitely not the last one where we fight against puke, poopy diapers or even angry stares from people around.

And travelling in business class does not guarantee a child-free zone. But if flight companies would make a child-free zone on their planes, then these would definitely sell out first!

Wishing you stress-free travels,

Kadi

Does your home look like an aftermath of a blender used without a lid?

More often I’ve seen homes where toys, drawing necessities and DIY supplies have taken over not only the child’s room, but the whole apartment or the house.

First, it makes parents extremely anxious as they can’t even see the floor, so it’s easy to take a fall and sprain an ankle. Second, children have no idea where their toys are, and if they want to colour their favourite colouring book, pencils will be scattered all over the place.

I often tell parents that the solution is very simple, but in most cases the task feels overwhelming. Well, some have an option to ask me for help, to finish the big task that really needs to get done.

Here are couple of points to follow, to avoid that blender-thing happening to your place:

1. Have a designated box for toys – or if you have a shelf, then you can keep things organised with labelled boxes.

2. Have a separate box for toys and DIY assignments. Throw away any broken pencils or papers that can’t be used any longer.

3. Don’t keep broken toys, otherwise soon enough your child’s room will be a graveyard for broken toys.

4. Limit the amount of toys your child has and every few weeks exchange the least played toys with something that has been hidden under the pile.

5. Make sure toys are age-appropriate and put away toys they’ve outgrown. There’s no point giving a year-old a toy car with a remote control, or any kind of moving toys, as these are not age-appropriate – your child won’t know how to fully enjoy playing with these. In worst case they may even get scared.

6. If toys are brought as gifts, then it would be best to have the child play with them one by one over time, and not all at the same time. I greatly respect gift-givers who instead of bringing ‘something’ actually ask what’d be the best, or if perhaps the family would prefer a gift card instead. In the UK more and more people actually gift Amazon gift cards (and then families can buy what they think would be the best).

7. What to do with gifted toys children never play with, or have no interest in? I’d advise to have a designated box for these, as these are good to gift forward. You may think it’s not proper, but throwing these away would only create more rubbish.

8. Don’t keep too many toys at the child’s reach (10-15 toys is enough), as otherwise it’s easier for the space to become messy and no one can finish one game properly.

9. When finishing a game, make it into a habit to place all toys away before starting another one.

10. I have a practice with children, that before lunch all the toys must be collected and placed away, as then it’s good to start a new game after lunch nap. Before dinner we also save some time for gathering toys, so that the space will be clear in the morning. The trick is to implement this as early as possible and start clearing the space with them. You can’t expect them to start putting away toys on their own – be a role model.

11. For the child to play independently, they need to be taught how to do so. So play with them to encourage creativity and imagination.

12. In my opinion, the best toys for every household are: wooden blocks, Lego (size depends on the child’s age), toy animals and small cars.

13. Make a mini-library for the child, which holds age-appropriate books (these should be educational and also interesting for you and for the child). Books can come with a pretty hefty price tag, so instead you could take the child to the library every week or so.

NB! Photo is illustrative and is from the Internet.

Happy organising,

Kadi

Ibiza

I’m sending you my warmest greetings from Ibiza!

I posted something to Instagram yesterday (kadiandbabies), to which I got many questions asking if it’s really a good idea to go to Ibiza with children? Then I got some more questions about how it is over there, isn’t the island mostly for party-goers etc.

Thanks to my job I travel a lot and get to visit the best places in the world. At the moment I’ve been in Ibiza for about a week – the family I work for rented a villa for the holidays. It’s a very nice place, and so peaceful that it reminds me of my grandmother’s countryside cottage.

Like with any country or island, there’s always some kind of an image that pops to your mind, and Ibiza is no different. Mention the name of it, and most know it’s the island of crazy parties, women wearing almost nothing but high heels, and endless yards filled with men looking to fill their nights with pleasure. And as I managed to fit all that into once sentence, that’s all I’m going to say.

Yesterday I got a couple hours of free time to have a stroll around the city. I wasn’t too impressed if I’m being honest, especially as it is an island who earns its keep through tourism. The city was completely packed, although it was only Wednesday.

But you can find outside restaurants at every corner, and during my stroll these were filled with mostly families. I decided against doing the same, with my last trip to Spain illustrated with food poisoning. However, I did grab some ice cream which sounded like the safest bet. There is much to discover, and Ibiza also has lots of museums. So if I get another second off somewhere in-between, I’ll go pay these a visit and will share what I discovered.

Getting home was the only problem I had, as taxi drivers are used to going from hotel to a hotel, but very few are willing to go to the villas that are up in the mountains. So there I found myself, explaining to the 6th taxi driver of my problem, as no one else was willing to take me up there although I had the exact coordinates and a map on my phone. And as Ibiza doesn’t have any taxi apps, you have to find the taxi spot somewhere in the city. Luckily for me, the 6th taxi driver was a local who knew where to go and how. But even then I still had to find the correct villa all by myself.

So there’s no surprise that my feet were burning by the time I got home.

Some things I greatly appreciate during my current trip is that the house has a team who takes care of everything. Team who makes sure my clothes are all clean and ironed, and the chefs who ensure my tummy is full of only the best.

As I didn’t dine outside that evening, I loved the considerateness of the house team who had left me some Thai food in the fridge… what else can one wish for when exhausted and hungry.

So whoever wishes to go to Ibiza for the holidays, feel free to go – it’s not as bad as it sounds or people make it out to be.

Kadi

Itaalia reis

Kes on juba varasemalt lugenud blogi või postitusi Kadi ja Beebid facebooki lehel teavad, et reisin peredega kaasas.

Eile varahommikul Londonis lennujaamas kohtusin perega, et lennata Itaaliasse. Pildid selle loo juures on minu enda tehtud ja Como järv on imeline, kuid räägin sellest kuidas meie reis läks.

Kohvrid ära antud suundusime äriklassi lounge-i. Suurema lapse (peaaegu kolmene) jälgin, et ta alati hommikusöögi sööks, sest pärast on asjad hullud ning seda saab täiesti vältida. Apelsinimahl ja kaks rosinarulli ning pool sarvesaia söödud oli aeg suunduda meie väravasse.

Saime ilusti ennast oma kohtadele lennukis istuma kui mulle ulatati pisipiiga (kaheksa kuune), kellel oli väsimus võimust võtnud. Kuna reisisime äriklassis oli meil piisavalt ruumi. Koht meie kõrval oli tühi, kuid vahekäigu pool istus keskealine meesterahvas. Olgu siin kohal ära märgitud, et lapse nutu peal saatis ta minu suunas väga pahaseid pilke, kuid samas kui laps hakkas uinuma hakkas meesterahvas oma sõrmi nipsutama ning piigal olid silma kohe suured. Lõpuks piiga uinus ja siis soovis ema, et annaksin magava lapsel talle ning tegeleksin suuremaga.

Ema istekoha taga oli tühi koht ja palus, et ma istuks sinna ning tegeleksin suurema lapsega. Mul pole kunagi olnud probleemi tegevuste leiutamiseks reisimise ajal. Suur värviraamat ja pinal pliiatsitega on hea ajaviide mida koos teha. Taas oli meie kõrval tühi koht ja aknaalusel kohal istus üle keskea proua. Hakkasime värviraamatut värvima ning vaikselt lobisema piigaga (ta teab, et reisi ajal peab austama teiste rahu ning sosinal räägime). Kuna kahe istme vahel oli laud pandud ja pool sellest lauast olime enda alla võtnud ei paistnud minu silmis probleem, küll aga ei olnud sama meelt akna all istuv proua. Äkki lajatas ta oma ajalehe keset meie värviraamatut! Mis seal ikka tõstsin ajalehe kenasti vabale pinnale laual, mille peale proua närv ütles üles ja küsis, et kus on teie ametlik istekoht? Mina, et piiga oma on teie ees kus ema beebiga on kõrvalistmel. Selle peale läks hääletoon pagaseks ja küsis, et kus on minu ametlik istekoht mille peale laste ema pööras ringi ja ütles koha numbri. Proua kargas püsti, haaras kogu oma kraami ja suundus minu kohale istuma tehes sinna juurde hulgaliselt grimasse ja loopides oma asju. Piiga uuris, et mis juhtus, miks naisterahvas enam meie kõrval ei tahtnud istuda? Seletasin, et vahest on nii, et oled väsinud ja kuri ning siis on justkui kõik sinu halvas tujus süüdi, aga loodetavasti saab ta puhata.

Hakkati serveerima hommikusööki ja mul juba oli halb eelaimdus kui andsin pisikese emale sülle. Ema istus täpselt vahekäigu juures istmel. Muidugi tuli stjuuardess, kes kummardus ema juurde ja valjuhäälselt hakkas küsima mida ta soovib hommkusöögiks ja juua. Järgmisel hetkel pisipiiga röökis!

Olen aus, ma tundisin sisimas kuidas kops läks üle maksa ning ma tahtsin küsida, kas see on mingi nali? Sa näed, et beebi magab ja sul ei liigu mitte üks närv kui oled lapse üles ajanud…. me ei ole ilmselt esimesed ega viimased inimesed kes lastega lendavad ja oleks tore kui meeskond oleks lastega perede osas arusaajamad ning natukene empaatiavõimet oleks suureks plussiks.

Nüüd oli mul kaks last ja suuremale püüdsin tellitud hommikusööki anda, ise sain vaba käega oma hommikuse kohvi ära juua.

Tõusin pisipiigaga püsti kui tundis, kuidas ta hakkas imelikult keha hoidma (ma tean mida see tähendab juba varasemast) sain käe alla ning jõudsin emale öelda, et anna mulle kiiresti muslin, kuid tema reageerimine polnud nii kiire kui minul, kuid saime osa piimaoksest siiski muslin linasse. Lennuki pôrand sai vaid kergeid täppe ning kaasreisijad jäid puutumata.
Stjuuardessid ei suutnud oma pahameelt väga varjata, kuid see oli mu kõige väiksem probleem, nüüd oli vaja see pisike puhtaks teha ning panin uuesti talle selga tuduriided.
Kuni hotellini läks kõik kenasti ning lapsed pidasid kogu reisi hästi vastu.

Kuidas möödus esimene öö?
Suurem piiga magas kenasti, kuid väiksem oli iga tunni tagant üleval, lisaks sain veel ühe okseralli temaga ning varahommikul otsustas ta hoopis jutustada ning uuesti magama jäämine võttis aega üle tunni. Kohaliku aja järgi kell seitse olid mõlemad üleval ning päev võis jälle alata.

Miks ma seda siia kirjutan täna, sest tihti arvatakse, et lastega reisimine on lust ja lillepidu, kuid kõik sõltub sellest kuidas sa ennast vaimselt oled ette valmistanud.
Ülaltoodu ei ole mitte sugugi ei esimene ega ka ilmselt mitte viimane kord kus tuleb okse- ja kaka rallit ning vihaseid pilke ning asjade pildumisi.

Äriklassis reisimine ei taga seda, et tegemist oleks lastevaba tsooniga, vähemalt meie reisime äriklassis lastega, kui lennufirmad teeksid lastevaba tsooni lennukis, siis uskuge mind, need müüdaks välja esimesena!

Stressivaba reisimist,
Kadi

Kas sinu kodu näeb välja nagu blender mida kasutades on unustatud kaas peale panna?

Ühe enam on hakkanud mulle silma kodusid külastades, kuidas laste mänguasjad, joonistustarbed ja meisterdamise vahendid on vallutanud mitte ainult laste enda toa vaid koguni kogu maja või korteri.

Esiteks tunnevad vanemad ennast sellises kodus äärmiselt ebamugavalt, sest põranda pinda pole näha ja iial ei või teada millal ennast mõne asja otsa lühi- või pikaajaliselt vigaseks astud/kukud. Teiseks ei tea lapsed kus on nende mänguasjad või kui tekib mõte värviraamatut värvida, siis pole võimalik leida tervet komplekti pliiatseid, sest kõik on kuskil mänguasjadega segamini ja organiseerimata.

Tihtipeale pakun vanematele, et lahendus on tegelikult väga lihtne sellises olukorras, kuid tihti tundub see liiga suure tööna, siis ühe võimalusena on kutsuda mind appi ja see suur töö koos ära teha.

Toon välja lihtsad punktid mida järgides väldid kaaneta blenderi kasutamise efekti oma kodus:

1. Tee mänguasjadele eraldi kast või kui on riiulid, siis pane karbid kuhu kleebid peale pildid kuhu mingi mänguasi läheb.

2. Tee eraldi karbid joonistustarvete ja meisterdamise asjade jaoks. Ära hoia alles katkiseid pliiatseid ja soditud või kasutuskõlbmatuid pabereid.

3. Ära hoia katkiseid mänguasju alles, see on prügi mille alles hoidmisel muutub lapse tuba ja halvimal juhul kogu elamine katkiste mänguasjade surnuaiaks.

4. Piira mänguasjade arvu ning iga paari nädala tagant vaheta kõige vähem rakendust leidnud mänguasjad peidus olnute vastu välja.

5. Jälgi, et lapse mänguasjad oleksid eakohased ja kui laps on beebimänguasjadest välja kasvanud, siis võid need ära panna. Samuti ei tasuks aastasele lapsele näiteks puldiga autot või liikuvaid mänguasju anda, sest need ei ole eakohased ja väikelaps ei oska nendest rõõmu tunda, halvimal juhul hoopis kardavad neid.

6. Kui tuuakse kingitusi lapsele, siis kõige lihtsam on anda neid kätte ükshaaval mitte korraga ja minu silmis on eriti kõrgelt hinnatud need kingituste toojad kes enne “lihtsalt millegi” toomist küsivad üle mida tuua ja kas sobib ehk kinkekaart paremini. Inglismaal on hakkanud üha enam levima näiteks Amazoni kinkekaardid (veebipood kus saab osta mida hing ihkab).

7. Mida teha nende kingitud mänguasjadega mis on teie perekonnas välistatud või lapse huvi selle osas kaob suure tõenäosusega peale pakendi avamist- tee kodus üks kast kus hoiad selliseid kingitusi mida on hea edasi kinkida. Tundub, et see poleks viisakas, kuid nii väldid prügi teket mänguasjade näitel mis teile ei sobi.

8. Ära hoia liiga palju mänguasju lapse vaateväljas (10-15 asjas on rohkem kui küll), sest nii on segadus lihtne tekkima ning keegi ei suuda enam ühte mängu korralikult mängida.

9. Ühe mängu lõppedes korjake mänguasjad kokku enne kui alustate uut mängu.

10. Praktiseerin lastega kes on kodus, et enne lõunasööki tuleb mänguasjad kokku korjata, sest kui lõunaunest ärgatakse on hea alustada uut mängu korras toas. Enne õhtusööki on samuti aeg mänguasjade kokku korjamisele, et hommikul ärgates oleks korras tuba. Üks trikk on see, et juba pisikesest peale korista koos lapsega, ära eelda, et ta hakkab ise oma asju lihtsalt kokku korjama – ole eeskuju.

11. Selleks, et laps oskaks paari aastaselt iseseisvalt mänguasjadega mängida tuleb teda pisikesest peale õpetada, ehk koos mängida ja arendada lapse kujutlusvõimet.

12. Minu silmis parimad mänguasjad mis võiks olla igas majapidamised: Puidust klotsid, legod (olenevalt vanusest erinevate suurustega legod), erinevad mänguloomad ja pisikesed autod.

13. Tee lapsele pisike raamatukogu, kus on eakohased raamatud mis arendavad ja on huvitavad nii sulle kui lapsele lugeda. Raamatud on päris krõbeda hinnaga, seega käi lapsega iganädalaselt raamatukogus.

NB! Pilt on illustreeriv pärineb internetist.

Mõnusat organiseerimist,
Kadi

Ibiza

Saadan eriti palavad tervitused hetkel Hispaania-st Ibiza saarelt.

Eile tegin Instagrami (kadiandbabies) postituse peale mida sain mitmeid küsimusi, et kas tõesti lastega Ibizale? Kuidas seal on? Kas see pole mitte saar pidutsejatele jne?

Tänu oma tööle reisin palju ning külastan vaid parimaid kohti.
Hetkel oleme juba pea nädala olnud Ibizal ning pere on selle tarbeks rentinud villa. Väga mõnus ja rahulik koht nagu maal vanaema juures.

Nii nagu iga riigi või saare puhul on mingisugune imago külge saadud on ka Ibiza. Kui mainida Ibiza, siis teavad enamus, et tegemist on meeletute pidude, olematus riietuses- ja kõrgetel kontsadel naiste ning kiimaste meestega. Võtsin ühe lausega kõik kokku ning sel teemal enam ei peatu.

Eile sain õhtul mõned tunnid vaba aega, et minna linna jalutama. Minus ei tekitanud mingeid erilisi muljeid ilmselt seepärast, et tegemist on saarega mis elatub turistide teenindamisest. Linn oli rahvast täin hoolimata, et oli kõigest kolmapäev.
Väga palju peresid oli lastega ning einestati perekonniti välirestoranides millest sel saarel juba puudust ei tule. Kuna ma mäletasin veel liigagi hästi oma eelmist reisi Hispaaniasse kus saime toidumürgituse, siis väljas otsustasin mitte einestada, kuid jäätist sõin küll, tundus kõige ohutum. Kuna Ibizal on ka palju muuseume, siis juhul kui mul juhtub veel vaba aega olema, lähen külastan neid ja jagan siis siin oma muljeid ka.

Ainus probleem mis mul tekkis oli taksoga tagasi koju saamisega, sest taksojuhid sõidutavad kliente hotellide vahet mitte aga mägedes asuvatesse villadesse. Kui olin kuuenda taksojuhi jutul ja seletasin, et nüüd on jama, sest mitte keegi eelnevatest ei taha mind ära viia, isegi kui mul on olemas täpsed kordinaadid ja ma kasutan oma telefoni interneti jne. Ibizal ei ole takso appi mille kaudu endale tellida taksot, seega tuleb leida kus tänaval taksode “kodu” on. Minu õnneks oli taksojuhi näol tegemist kohalikuga, kes teadis kuidas ja mismoodi minna, kuid siis kui hakkasime piirkonda jõudma pidin ise üles otsima õige maja.

Koju tagasi jõudes lõid mu jalad tuld, sest viimased päevad pole olnud ju rohkem kõndmist kui majas ning siis väljas basseini ning jõusaali.

Mõned asjad mida ma praeguse reisi juures väga kõrgelt hindan on see, et majas on meeskond kes hoolitseb kõige eest. Selle eest, et mu riided oleksid puhtad ja triigitud ja kokad, et mu kõht oleks täis vaid head ja paremat.
Kuna ma väljas söömas ei käinud, siis külmikusse oli mulle pandud õhtusöök kõrvale tai toitu…. no mida sa veel oskad soovida kui jalad tuld löövad ja kerge nälg on kallal. 🙂

Seega kes soovib perega puhkama tulla Ibizale, siis muidugi tulge, see pole midagi nii hull nagu tundub. 🙂

Kadi

My body is Mine!

I came into this world as a bundle of joy for mommy and daddy.
I had no presumptions, no expectations or hopes. As a baby I liked being close to mommy and daddy, and I disliked strange aunties and uncles who always wanted to pinch my cheeks and pat me. ‘Oh looks at these cute cheeks!’, and ‘What cute chubby legs!’. And when I wanted nothing more than to nap, they wouldn’t leave my cheeks alone! If I had known how to speak, I would’ve told them to keep their hands off of me. But I didn’t yet know, and so I cried so my mommy/daddy would save me!

So came a time of crawling around and exploring, trying to climb and run around. With visitors I hid myself behind the couch or under the kitchen table (the big table cloth hid me well, or so I thought). Or sometimes I quickly slipped outside (no one would follow me there, not even for my cheeks).

Some guests were nice and I liked them a lot! Especially my uncle Rein who I high-fived many times, and if I wanted, he threw me into air and played with me. If I didn’t feel like it, he never poked at me – what a great uncle!

I also clearly remember some of my daddy’s friends, who came over to fix the car or dropped in for a chat. With their oily and ill-smelling fingers (which I now know were from smoking) they pinched my cheeks and pulled at my braid. Just for fun, they said. It wasn’t fun. My daddy should’ve told them off.

When I was a little bigger and tagged along with my grandma, one thing was for sure. She never let anyone pinch my cheeks, give me a peck or pat on my head. My grandma has always thought children do not need the constant pinching and patting, even by family. She always said ‘the child will come when they want!’ – a very smart granny!

Today I decide who to hug and who can touch me. I don’t go to just any hairdressers’, beauty salon or a doctor – I have chosen these people with care.

And all of the above is only a small part what parents can do to protect their children.

You know how hard it’s for me to watch when a child needs to apologise to another, and then adults say they need to hug and kiss to make up. Why are you punishing the child? Is the apology not enough?

It doesn’t matter if it’s a sister/brother, nursery mates or just children at the local playground. Every child has the right to decide whose hand they hold, who they give their kisses to and who has the right to touch them. And if the child has no mood for even mom’s or dad’s kisses/hugs in the morning, then they must not be forced. This only creates ill feelings in the child, as if they’re in the wrong for not accepting it.

I asked a 2.5-year-old yesterday if I could have a hug? The answer was: ‘You can hug my bunny if you want to!’ Her message was clear and this needs to be respected. A couple hours later she came to me and said: ‘Kadi, I want a hug!’ – and then of course she got all the hugs she asked for.

Even when choosing a stroller, I advise to get one where you can change the direction in which the child sits in. I prefer ones where the child’s facing me, with their back towards the moving direction. Why?
First – this lessens the chance that someone I know or a person in the public transport can pinch the child’s cheeks or touch them in any way.
Second – if the child is holding something or falls asleep, then I can see what’s going on and can make adjustments there and then, or even remove an object from their mouth.

Around 85% of the new parents I’ve spoken to say that they greatly dislike if someone touches their newborn or holds them too early on. They also feel bad when refusing requests to hold the baby, especially grandparents.

I have also written more about kissing babies and toddlers.
https://kadiandbabies.com/2017/10/08/dont-kiss-your-baby-on-the-lips/

https://www.itv.com/news/granada/update/2019-02-11/gran-warns-of-dangers-of-kissing-babies/?fbclid=IwAR1jndXj8HlNhXWzR2Q6-JxWUNg_Y_h-3ra8102tyrDsB1TnMJDRTu-B-_4

I’ve also expressed my opinion about uploading baby pictures to social media.
https://kadiandbabies.com/2019/07/22/posting-baby-and-toddler-photos-online/

NB! Photo is illustrative and is from the Internet.

Dear parents, please protect your children. Respect your child’s decision about who they wish to initiate contact with. Your child doesn’t yet know that their body is theirs, but you know!

#MyBodyBoundaries

Kadi

 

 

 

 

 

 

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